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What have we stopped noticing?

The things we say, do, and accept without thinking twice.

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“drop dead gorgeous”

Extreme beauty pictured alongside a command to die.

What the words picture
What people mean

Conscious swap“Stop-and-stare gorgeous”

Would you swap it, or keep it?

Look closer where it comes from, what it assumes, and the case for keeping it
What you mean by it

A way to describe someone or something as exceptionally beautiful or attractive.

What it's actually picturing

The phrase pairs intense admiration with the image of someone dropping dead. Beauty is described as so striking that death becomes the measure of its effect.

What it takes for granted

Extreme attractiveness can be expressed through a violent image without changing the meaning of the compliment.

Worth knowing

The phrase is usually understood as emphatic praise, and the violent image is often barely heard. It is commonly used for people, especially in descriptions of physical attractiveness.

The case for keeping it

The death image is figurative and familiar, which gives the phrase a punch that simpler praise can lack. For many speakers, the whole expression functions as one established intensifier.

Say it plainly
Absolutely gorgeousStunningIncredible
Or have some fun
Stop-and-stare gorgeous
◆ It's right there in the words

What else do you hear all the time?