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What have we stopped noticing?

The things we say, do, and accept without thinking twice.

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“Rule of thumb”

You may have heard this one is about domestic violence. The record says otherwise.

Had you heard that story?

Look closer where it comes from, what it assumes, and the case for keeping it
What you mean by it

A rough, practical guideline.

The story you may have heard

A popular story says the phrase comes from an old law that let a man beat his wife with a stick no thicker than his thumb.

What the record actually shows

No such law has ever been found. The phrase is recorded by the mid-1600s, meaning working by practice and guesswork rather than exact measurement. It probably comes from using the thumb as a rough ruler.

Worth knowing

A 1782 judge was mocked in a cartoon for supposedly saying it, but no ruling has been found; the link to the phrase dates from 1976. It still circulates in good faith.

Why it still matters

A false origin story can still change how a phrase lands for someone who has heard it. Knowing the record lets you respond kindly rather than smugly.

◆ Myth, checked
Where this comes from

What else do you hear all the time?