October 2nd is the International Day of Non-Violence. Swap one phrase for a day →

What have we stopped noticing?

The things we say, do, and accept without thinking twice.

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“"You killed it!"”

Praise pictured as killing. The result is so good, the old metaphor says someone is dead.

What the words picture
What people mean

Conscious swap“You remain awesome!”

Would you swap it, or keep it?

Look closer where it comes from, what it assumes, and the case for keeping it
What you mean by it

A way to say someone did something exceptionally well or produced an excellent result.

What it's actually picturing

The praise uses killing as the picture of success. The person who succeeds is cast as the one who did the killing.

What it takes for granted

Violence can stand in for intensity, dominance, or exceptional performance without changing the intended praise.

Worth knowing

The phrase is usually understood figuratively, with no suggestion that actual violence occurred. In work settings, it can make aggressive action the picture for doing something exceptionally well.

The case for keeping it

The violent picture is so familiar that many speakers hear the praise immediately and barely notice the literal image. Its energy and brevity are part of why it works.

Say it plainly
You did an amazing job!You nailed it!You crushed it!
Or have some fun
You remain awesome!
◆ It's right there in the words

What else do you hear all the time?